![]() ![]() I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention alcohol, because Orenstein emphasizes how girls can use alcohol to navigate the highly culturally policed line between slut (wanted to have sex sober!) and prude (doesn’t want sex at all!) in ways that are harmful and leave them more vulnerable to coercion. At the end, Orenstein talks about how to teach girls that they deserve pleasure, and suggests that practicing scenarios-or even just figuring out in advance what you want and don’t want, and how you will say no and yes-can help them avoid regrets, even though they won’t necessarily avoid broken hearts. For the ones who have sex with young men, giving blowjobs is standard and even a way to keep emotional distance, as well as a way to avoid intercourse, but reciprocity is rare. ![]() Depressing and scary Orenstein focuses on college-bound girls, a demographic close to my own heart, and finds that they don’t have a good vocabulary for figuring out what they want or a solid understanding that they have the right to enjoy sexual encounters. ![]()
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